Ask Amy: Upcoming holidays create in-law drama

Wednesday, 15 November 2017, 05:14:50 AM. Advice for the real world.
Dear Amy: I am having in-law troubles. About five years ago I asked my sisters-in-law if we could move the annual Christmas family gathering from a Sunday to a Saturday so that one of my kids could attend. He lives quite a distance away and would have to miss work on the Monday after if he attended the party. None of the others would miss a day of work because they live locally. The response was: “No, this is the day we always do it.” Each successive year, I made this request when the advance email came out, and I was repeatedly refused. This year I did not even get an email, but I was informed earlier than normal of the event by my niece. I am depressed and demoralized by the exclusion of my child and by being excluded from the conversation. I have asked my partner to approach his siblings, but frankly I am not sure what will change. Do you have any suggestions? — Left Out Dear Left Out: I sympathize with you, really I do, because nobody likes a sister-in-law exclusion story better than yours truly. But you are not hosting this party. Someone else is. You made your request to change the day for the sake of one person’s work and travel schedule and were told no. Asking the same question every year and always getting the same answer is the very definition of social madness, and it is starting to reflect poorly on you. Holiday parties involving groups of people do tend to become set in stone. It is really not for you to say what change might be easy for others. Others in your...Read more
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