How bromances are threatening heterosexual relationships

Friday, 13 October 2017, 07:30:30 AM. Bromances are more emotionally satisfying and rewarding for men than romances with women — a not-so-brotastic development for the future of heterosexual relationships, a study published Thurs…

Bromances are more emotionally satisfying and rewarding for men than romances with women — a not-so-brotastic development for the future of heterosexual relationships, a study published Thursday found.

“The increasingly intimate, emotive and trusting nature of bromances offers young men a new social space for emotional disclosure,” the researchers wrote in the study, published in the journal “Men and Masculinites” according to Pacific Standard magazine.

Researchers at the University of Winchester in the UK interviewed 30 straight undergraduate men, who said they felt less judged by their bros, and that it was easier to open up and resolve conflicts with their male friends than with their girlfriends.

“With a romance,” the men griped, “one was constantly posturing and self-monitoring,” acting, “the part of the adoring boyfriend,” in order to sleep with their girlfriends, researchers found.

One man, “Harvey,” said he didn’t even feel comfortable divulging that he loves listening to Beyonce and Taylor Swift — for fear that his girlfriend would judge him.

But his bros would understand.

“On balance, they argued that bromantic relationships were more satisfying in their emotional intimacy, compared to heterosexual romances,” researchers wrote.

Of the 30 men interviewed, 29 said they cuddled with and often slept in the same bed as their male friends, Telegraph UK reported.

“We hug when we meet, and we sleep in the same bed when we have sleepovers. Everyone knows it, and nobody is bothered by it because they do it as well,” one man, named “Aaron” in the study said.

“It’s like having a girlfriend but then not a girlfriend,” another man, named “Martin,” said.

Researchers said this growing coziness between bros could threaten their relationships with women.

“There are significant and worrying results here for women. These men perceived women to be the primary regulators of their behavior, and this caused disdain for them as a whole in some instances,” one of the researchers, Dr. Stefan Robinson said.

Researchers found that the men spoke of women they knew in generally negative terms, and said they thought women held long grudges and were emotionally unpredictable.

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